In order to be intimate with others, we need first to be intimate with ourselves. In the latest episode of Tricycle Talks, contributing editor Amy Gross speaks with Roshi Pat Enkyo O’Hara, Abbot of the Village Zendo in New York City, on how to cultivate compassion for ourselves through honest reflection, breaking down any sort of “fixed self-identity,” and living in the present moment. Once we develop this compassion for ourselves, Enkyo says, we start to realize the lack of distinction between self and other, which ultimately leads to wisdom and compassionate action.

Enkyo is the Co-Spiritual Director of the Zen Peacemakers Order and is known for her social activism and teachings on sexuality, race, class, and health. Enkyo’s new book, Most Intimate: A Zen Approach to Life’s Challenges, is out this month. We feature an excerpt, “Simple Joy,” from her book in the latest issue of Tricycle.

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