The Third Step
When you feel that you are being challenged, step into the center of the problem
Take the opposite line of reasoning
Resolve the conflict by understanding the other side of the argument
Tai no henka (Turn the Body)
When you meet resistance, do not fight harder
Let the attack change you
Become the person you need to become
in order to resolve the conflict
Be flexible in the way you move and in the way you see yourself
Heaven and Earth
When you want to realize an idea, first send your root into the ground
When you are firmly rooted, let inspiration move you
The results will be less dramatic but more satisfying
Transformation
The other person will change you
Let it happen
Out of apparent conflict will come growth
With growth you will acquire wisdom
With wisdom you become patient
With patience you can accomplish great things
From Moving Toward Harmony, © 2000 by Eric Oberg. Reprinted with permission of the author and Far Eastern Press.
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