When we are attached to others, we have many expectations of them and don’t see them for who they are. In reality, we are not caring for them; we are caring solely for ourselves. I describe this type of love as fish love. If you say that you love fish, what usually happens? You eat it. So you see, you don’t love the fish; you love yourself when you catch it, fillet it, fry it, and eat it. Therefore, a relationship based on attachment is similar to this fish love. If you have a sense of true love—not fish love—then there is genuine happiness and an opportunity for healthy relationships.
From The Heart of Tibetan Buddhism: Advice for Life, Death, and Enlightenment by Khenpo Sherab Sangpo. © 2024 by Khenpo Sherab Sangpo. Reprinted in arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Inc. Boulder, CO. www.shambhala.com
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